Protect Your Peace
Hi My Beautiful Friends,
HAPPY MONDAY!
Protecting Your Peace Is Not a Sin
Setting boundaries has been a hard but necessary journey for me.
I used to be a people pleaser, saying yes out of fear that if I didn’t, someone would be mad, disappointed, or walk away. I thought I was being kind, but in reality, I was abandoning myself in the process. And in the long run, that only left me hurt and empty.
What I’ve come to understand is this:
Setting healthy boundaries is not selfish. It’s not rude.
It’s protection. It’s wisdom. It’s peacekeeping.
If someone can’t respect those boundaries, it often says more about their inner battles than it does about you. And maybe, just maybe, they were only meant to walk with you for a season, not a lifetime.
What’s been hardest is the guilt.
I was so used to giving everything of myself that when I finally started saying no, when I started guarding my peace, I felt like I was doing something wrong.
I questioned myself:
Am I being petty?
Am I wrong for standing up for myself?
Is this even biblical?
I love God so deeply. I want to honor Him with everything I do.
And I never want to act from a place of pride, bitterness, or anger.
But I also know I must protect my heart.
“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.”
Proverbs 4:23
This morning, I was wrestling with a personal situation. I was desperate to hear from God, asking Him to guide me. And in His goodness, He did. He led me to wise people. He showed me Scripture. He reminded me of His truth.
And still, I doubted myself.
That’s been a pattern for me, making decisions and then second-guessing them.
But His Word reminded me:
“But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind.”
James 1:6
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight.”
Proverbs 3:5–6
“Truly I tell you, if anyone says to this mountain, ‘Go, throw yourself into the sea,’ and does not doubt in their heart but believes that what they say will happen, it will be done for them.”
Mark 11:23
“You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in You. Trust in the Lord forever, for the Lord, the Lord himself, is the Rock eternal.”
Isaiah 26:3–4
Even Jesus set boundaries.
He often withdrew from the crowds to rest and pray (Luke 5:16).
He didn’t try to meet every demand or say yes to every request.
He didn’t allow guilt or pressure to distract Him from His mission.
He loved deeply, but He also protected His peace.
If Jesus needed boundaries, so do we.
I’m still learning. Still growing.
But I’m realizing that protecting your peace and guarding your heart isn't disobedience. It’s obedience.
It’s not rebellion. It’s wisdom.
It’s not petty. It’s holy.
You can be kind and still say no.
You can love people and still create space.
You can follow Christ and still protect your peace.
I hope you have a wonderful day,
With Love,
Your Friend Chelsey